Your Birth Story
Your experience of giving birth and becoming a parent is a unique and intense personal journey through the unknown. Even if you have written down your story or told it to others many times, your birth story is not a fixed story; your birth story changes over time, and depending on where, when, and to whom you tell it. Perhaps there are parts you have never spoken aloud or acknowledged. Birth Story Healing is for parents who have had difficult births or who, for any reason, want to explore their experience of giving birth in a non-judgmental environment where you will be truly heard and understood. Your feelings and beliefs will be honoured as we move through a powerful and effective storytelling process to help you integrate and make sense of your experience. You will leave the session with a changed perspective and new-found lightness in your body and heart.
Who can attend
If you have feelings of disappointment, confusion, anger, guilt, shame, anxiety, and/or sadness surrounding the events of your pregnancy, birth, postpartum period, and/or breastfeeding, then a Birth Story Circle is for you. Whether you avoid thinking about specific parts of your experience or constantly replay it in your mind, you may be ready to change how you think about or give meaning to your birth and mothering experiences. Parents who had unwanted medical interventions or a caesarean are highly encouraged to attend. The birth need not be recent for you to participate. We also welcome pregnant parents who had a challenging previous birth experience and are preparing for an upcoming birth.
This is important
You may be told that it doesn't really matter how you feel about your birth as long as you had a “good outcome.” For many in our culture, “healthy mother, healthy baby” may be considered the only thing of value. Yet we know inside that it does matter what happened to YOU and within you during this important time in your life. Also, during birth or postpartum, sometimes things do not go as you expected or hoped, and you may have questions about it, or want to learn from your experiences. Difficult or traumatic births can affect personal relationships, physical and mental well-being, self-esteem, and parenting. While these Birth Story Circles are NOT therapy, many parents find that their whole outlook becomes more hopeful and experience immediate positive effects in their daily life and relationships-- with themselves and others.
Our Birth Story Circles are about two hours long and offer you an opportunity to meet with other parents in a warm, compassionate, and nonjudgmental circle to explore your deepest feelings about giving birth and becoming a mother. This is a space for you to re-examine your birth and to begin to see it and yourself in a new light. Birth stories are not told or swapped in any detail, so you don’t need to worry about comparing your story to others or about feeling triggered or judged. You have the opportunity to birth a new story about yourself as a human and as a parent. Come and honour the transformative journey of the childbearing year. If you prefer, private Birth Story sessions are available too.
What to bring
Be sure to bring your awareness, your fears, and your hopes. Bring your courage and willingness to be your own teacher. An open heart and mind will allow space for a meaningful and healing journey to begin. You may also want to bring a journal or notebook and pen.
Due to the intense and focused nature of our work, babies should be left with a loving caregiver.
Note: This is not a birth story swap; you will not be telling or hearing "bad birth" stories. To honour privacy, please no observers.
Tea, coffee, chai and afternoon tea/supper provided