In the Mexican partería tradition, it is said that during pregnancy the aura of a woman undertakes an extreme opening in order to accommodate the life and soul of the baby to be birthed through her. Birth itself is considered to be the moment of greatest expansion of the vibrational field in all its planes (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual). The Closing the Bones ceremony, traditionally performed during the postpartum period, honours this expansion and gently offers closure to the new mother as she returns to her own centre and integrates her personal transformation to motherhood.
In a warm and quiet room, a sacred healing space adorned with crystals, candles & flowers is created for this ceremony. Lights are dimmed, a mat and some blankets are placed on the floor and there is soft music playing.
When the woman to be blessed is ready, we begin the ceremony with some energy cleansing, followed by a yoni steam and a coconut milk foot bath with rose petals whilst she sips on warm nourishing postnatal herbal tea.
When Mama is ready, she lies on the mat on the floor. With the help of a rebozo, the hips of the woman that have widened and opened to accommodate the growing baby and to give birth, are gently rocked and pulled back into place. The gentle rocking movement has a soothing effect. We are also honouring the work these hips had to go through to bring a new life into the world. Warm castor oil is applied all over the skin of the belly and a gentle massage begins. The movements are rhythmic and relaxing, bringing the energy of the woman back to her centre. We are lovingly taking care of this area where a baby grew. Both giver and receiver acknowledge the beauty and wonder of this miraculous achievement. For the last part of the ceremony, the woman’s body is tightly wrapped using five rebozos. We wrap and honour different parts of her body—feet, knees, hips, shoulders, head. The woman is then left to rest as we hold this sacred space for her. Some energy work can be done to bring her back to centre, balance her energy and relax her.
Closing the Bones is a practice that can be transformational for any postpartum mama–whether you are 6 weeks or 30 years postpartum–who is looking to find more peace within. We have found it to be a profoundly powerful tool. Our hope is that more women through community can learn about and participate in a Closing the Bones ritual after birthing.
Bel & Bron offer Closing the Bones Ceremonies on the Sunshine Coast & Surrounds.