Imagine you are pregnant, your baby due very soon and you are surrounded by your closest friends. They gather to honour you and the incredible rite of passage you are going through. You are pampered with a healing foot bath, your hands and feet massaged, you are crowned with flowers, and offered blessings for your upcoming birth. This is a Mother Blessing Ceremony, and more and more, pregnant women are asking for this empowering ceremony instead of, or in addition to a baby shower.
It is a mother-centred ceremony that honours a woman as she prepares to make the transition into motherhood, through pregnancy and birth. It has Native American roots and has evolved as a modern ritual for birthing women. It brings a spiritual aspect to birth preparation and encircles the mother-to-be with love and support from other women. She is honoured for who she is, for giving the gift of life, and for who she will become as she begins this new journey as a mother. She is blessed and honoured for her beauty and reminded of her connection to all women.
Sunshine Coast Doula Services can help you create a unique, personalised Mother Blessing Ceremony for yourself, or a special mother-to-be in your life. Each ceremony is written specifically for the individual pregnant Mother and is personalised just for her. Other than an opening and closing ceremony, the entire Mother Blessing is up to you. You chose which ceremonies and activities you would like us to incorporate . After the formal closing ceremony is done, the festivities usually end with food and friends chatting until it's time to go home.
We offer the service of planning and hosting a Mother Blessing Ceremony.
This service includes:
- A meeting to discuss your vision for the Mother Blessing Ceremony. It can be planned by the mother-to-be herself or it can also be a surprise, sponsored by friends and family.
- Creating a guest list and designing and sending out Evite invitations.
- Planning the event, rituals, and activities
- Hosting the ceremony and events. Mother Blessing Ceremonies usually take place at the mother’s house, the house of a friend or family member, or at a specially hired venue.
Our base fee for planning & hosting a Mother Blessing Ceremony is $550.00
You then tailor your own package, by selecting from the below list, which ceremonies and activities you wish for us to incorporate:
Binding of the wrist’s ceremony
An organic hemp red cord is used to bound around each woman’s left wrist by the woman who sits to the left of her. As each woman binds the thread on the other woman’s wrist, she says ‘ from women we were born into this circle, from women we were born unto this earth’. This ritual is symbolic of the thread that connects us all as women. It also keeps each woman tuned into the birthing mother as she leads up to her time and reminds them to send her positive, loving energy as they all see their red cord every morning until the baby is born and the red thread can then be removed.
$2.00 per person
Circle of Mothers & Children ~ Candle Lighting Ceremony
All the women gather, together, forming a circle and sit on the floor. In the centre, a gathering of unlit tea light candles encircles a single lit candle surrounded by crystals. The ceremony conductor, taking the candle directly in front of her, lights it from the centre candle and pronounces, "I am (saying her name), daughter of (her mother's name) and mother of (her Children’s names); she directs the next woman in the circle to take the candle in front of her and proceed in the same fashion. The circle ends with the Mother of Honour lighting her own candle.
$4.00 per person
Each guest is provided with two beautiful crystal beads. At the beginning of the Mother Blessing Ceremony, guests write down on a piece of paper one blessing for the mother and one blessing for her baby. Using a length of cord, long enough to fit all beads from all the guests, it passes from one guest to another. Each guest slips on the blessing beads for the mother and the baby, verbally giving her blessings for each of them. Once everyone has put their beads on the cord, it is tied into a necklace and presented to the Mother of Honour. All the pieces of paper with the written blessings are put into a box for the mother to look through later. The mother can wear, carry, or focus on her Blessing Necklace during her baby's birth. This special keepsake can be passed on to that child later in life.
$6.00 per person
Blessing Flags are a beautiful way to create a lasting memory of a Mother Blessing Ceremony. Each guest is given a fabric flag of equal size to decorate. Coloured pens and paints are provided to guests to use, to create a unique blessing flag specifically for the Mother and her baby. A cord is provided to thread flags ready to be hung in the Mother’s birth space or they can simply be kept in a beautiful box as a memento.
$8.00 per guest
‘Light the way’ Candles
Candles make wonderful mementos for the guests to take home. We ask your guests to light the candle when the Mother-to-be commences labour, ‘To light the way’ guiding baby earth-side. We facilitate this process by compiling a phone tree SMS list of the candle recipients. The mother-to-be (or her partner or support person) then simply sends an SMS to everyone on the phone tree once labour has started, letting them know it is time to ‘Light the way’.
Our candles are hand-made by Love & Light. They come beautifully presented in a glass votive and are made from 100% pure soy wax, 100% pure essential oils, have cotton wicks and contain no nasties whatsoever!
$8.00 per person
Foot Bath Soak, with hand and foot massage
The Mother of Honour is pampered with an aromatherapy foot bath, and hand and foot massage. This is a lovely ritual to have done whilst having Belly Henna.
Belly design henna
Hand or foot henna for guests
$10.00 per person
Fresh Floral Crown
Flowers are symbolic of nature’s abundance and beauty, just as a woman is when she is in her full pregnant bloom. A flower crown is a beautiful thing to have for the mother-to-be.
We can create a belly cast as part of a Mother Blessing Ceremony or separately. Once completely dry the finished cast can then be preserved as is, or can be painted or adorned with beads, flowers or other art & craft goodies. It is your canvas!
Beautiful photographs documenting all the heart-felt connection and special moments of your Mother Blessing Ceremony. 100+ images in both colour and black and white provided to you on USB.
Stunning floral arrangements to adorn the venue.
We have agreements with numerous Sunshine Coast venues. Beautiful settings, perfect for Mother Blessing Ceremony gatherings.
POA - From $300
Choose from mind blowing platter style catering tailored to your individual preferences OR a simply stunning high tea and sweet treats.
Vegan & Gluten Free options available.
Post Birth Support
On the day of the Mother Blessing Ceremony we take the names and contact details of those woman present who would like to be put on a ‘support roster’ for bringing meals after the birth. Each woman brings one meal (ensuring the ingredients are breastfeeding friendly) to the new mother and helps in any way she can when she drops it off – e.g. dishwashing, clothes washing etc. This support is invaluable for the new mum at a big transition time in her life.
We coordinate and facilitate Mother Blessing Ceremonies for our doula clients as well as for the public. If you are a client, family member, or friend and want to learn more about our Mother Blessing Ceremonies, please contact us.